Heidi Klum and Seal? Over? Splitsville? Really?
I have to admit, I was somewhat shocked and saddened when I heard this piece of salacious celebrity gossip. I always looked at Heidi Klum as the woman who worked hard to have it all: the career, the kids, the body, the happy marriage…the $20 million dollars a year…
“How does she do it?” I wondered…
While I can’t provide accurate commentary as to why she chose to go her own way, her startling decision made me think.
My conclusion? She’s successful, she’s driven and she’s busy. And according to friends, radio announcers, the aesthetician who does my nails and just about anybody who was speculating over the twittershpere, the real answer was that she was simply too successful.
I don’t think any woman starts a career thinking it’s going to skyrocket to stratospheric proportions like Ms Klum. Most of us are content to contribute to something that keeps us interested and interesting. However, when you enter the world of ‘busy’ working woman, whether you’re senior management or contemplating corporate world domination, in order to keep all those balls in the air you need support, both emotionally and practically.
Someone who is proud of you and buys into your success.
As working women, we find that support in many ways: with parents, siblings, children or spouses; people who can support or validate our effort. One of our basic human desires is to be needed and appreciated. I don’t care how hard-core, independent any woman is; success can be a lonely island if nobody cares about it but you.
So maybe that was it. Maybe Seal came to the conclusion Heidi didn’t really need him. Maybe Heidi decided “what the heck, I’m doing it all anyways, I’ll just continue doing it all…myself.” Or maybe there was infidelity involved – but I’m not exploring that point.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t be successful – or even super-successful. But it is a two-way street. Women need to be appreciated for what they contribute, however they contribute. Whether you’re Heidi Klum or not.