This is the Year I Stop Procrastinating.

This is the Year I Stop Procrastinating.

You may (or not!) have been wondering about my whereabouts these last few weeks as it's been rather quiet here.  I've been on a family trip to Ireland and England, where we spent time with close family and friends. While I did think about blogging, I chose not to write for the few weeks while I was away.  I took copious notes and have lots to talk about, but now that I'm back, where do I start? Perhaps about my trip around Ireland with the kids and our visits to several important castles, about fishing in the middle of the Ring of Kerry and horseback … [Read more...]

Sleep Away Camp Jitters No More

Sleep Away Camp Jitters No More

The minute my daughter was born, I started to dream about sending her to a Jewish sleep away camp.  Not because I wanted to shake her, but because I knew we wouldn’t be sending her to Jewish day school and I wanted her to embrace our religion in a different way.  Also, because I know from personal experience what kind of long-lasting impact it would have on her. Growing up in Atlanta, it was more important to send your kids to Jewish sleep away camp.  We were a small community and I was one of only a handful of Jews in my grade.  Camp was the best way … [Read more...]

Mr. and Mrs. ?

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A recent Facebook study showed that a third of married women in their twenties decided against adopting the surnames of their husbands, compared to the majority of those in their sixties, according to a new study.  It also found 62 per cent of married women in their twenties took on their spouse’s surname, while 74 per cent did in their thirties and 88 per cent did in their sixties. More younger women are embracing feminism today than ever before. When I got married, my husband and I talked about changing my last name, but I resisted at first.  I felt … [Read more...]

Surfing

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Standing in line at airline security this morning, I met a young guy wearing a backpack.  Apparently eager for conversation, he asked where I was headed. I told him New York and he said he was headed to San Diego.  On a one-way ticket.  Never coming back. Me:  “Do it now, while you’re young.  Life gets more complicated as you get older.” Him: “Yeah, I decided it was time.  40 is sneaking up on me.” He looked about 20-something, I wasn’t sure. Me: “Make these moves while you can. Once you have responsibilities, like a family, it will only get … [Read more...]

When it’s Worth the Wait

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This past weekend I attended a wedding of an old friend of mine.  She’s 42. It’s funny how any age over 40 is considered “old” these days. Personally, I don’t understand that but I have to accept that I, too, am over the hill.  Sigh. However, I refuse to believe that it is downhill from here, because it is most certainly not. About three years ago, two very different things happened to my friend at the same time.  She suffered a terrible loss when her brother passed away very suddenly and quite tragically.   They meant everything to each other. And then … [Read more...]

Girls on HBO – A Lesson on Life’s Disappointments

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  My favorite show on TV right now is Girls on HBO.  I've been watching it since season 1, episode 1 and while some people are questioning whether it's as good as last year, I'm relishing every moment.  I watch each episode over and over, capturing lines that I missed the first time around.  Each episode is brilliantly written and takes me back to not only my life in NYC as a 20-something getting started in this thing we call "adulthood" but also to the feelings of muddling through the waters on my own for the first time in my life.  I think of … [Read more...]

My Thoughts on Marissa Mayer’s Decree On Working from Home

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  I've written a lot about my quest for the perfect situation to enable me to both work and take care of my children often on this blog.  A few years ago, I posted over on ScaryMommy about the dilemma I faced when I went back to work fulltime after my daughter was born.  Faced with a long commute across state lines to the office and raging hormones after just having given birth a few months earlier, I made the decision to leave when my flexible schedule to ease my return to work (3 days in the office, 2 at home) went out the window.  I left a job … [Read more...]

A New Mindful Mindset #Newtown

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As I sit here and watch Anderson Cooper profile one child after another killed so senselessly in Newtown, CT last week, I feel my heart filling up with tears. Each day since last Friday has been one of sadness for twenty sets of parents who have to learn how to go on without their children and it's been so hard to get them out of my mind. Life will never be the same.  Not for me, not for any of us.  I'm reminded of the shooting daily when I drop my kids off at school and set my eyes on one, sometimes, two police cars, and spot them again on the days … [Read more...]

The Miracle of Hanukkah – What it Really Means to Me

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(This piece was inspired by an article I read today in the NYT - you can find it here.) Last night was the first night of Hanukkah.  The holiday falls much earlier than Christmas this year, which is always nice for parents like us.  There is less to compete with.  Trees aren't up yet in many homes and my kids aren't hearing talk of Santa lists, although I'm sure that talk will start tomorrow as Christmas is coming and the birds are getting fat ("please to put a penny in the old man's hat").  We managed to keep the emphasis on the candle lighting and … [Read more...]

Waiting in the Wings

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My daughter is 9-1/2 and today was a turning point in our relationship. She told me that I embarrass her in front of her friends regularly.  At first, it was like a dagger in my heart. But quite quickly, I decided not to take it personally. Rather I decided to ask what it was specifically that humiliates her so I can stop it. At that point, she started to get embarrassed that she had mentioned it, so it was time to drop the subject. Deep down, I knew exactly what she was talking about. Sometimes I do have too much fun with her friends.  I like to … [Read more...]